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“He will be part of our family forever”: The foster carers who didn’t stop caring when their foster child turned 18

After spending his childhood with foster carers Jane and Dave, Daniel faced an uncertain future at 18 — until Shared Lives gave the family a way to stay together.

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Lauren Crosby Medlicott
Sep 30, 2026
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Daniel was placed with foster carers Jane and Dave Morris at the age of five and, as he approached adulthood, Shared Lives gave him a way to remain with the family who had raised him. Now supported as an adult through the scheme, Daniel continues to live as part of the family, with Jane, Dave and their sons helping him maintain his independence, wellbeing and community connections.

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“He will be part of our family forever”: The foster carers who wouldn’t let adulthood tear them apart

When Daniel was five years old, he was placed with foster carers Jane and Dave Morris in Pontypridd by the local authority.

“There were a lot of medical issues for Daniel that progressed to require quite complex care,” Jane told The Valleys Lead. “He’s also got learning difficulties.”

Although Jane and Dave have fostered multiple children over the years, Daniel remained with the couple throughout his childhood.

‘We’d become family’

As Daniel approached the age of 18, Jane knew he would effectively age out of the foster care system, and she worried about his health and wellbeing if he could no longer remain in their care.

“And Daniel was panicking and devastated,” Jane said. “There were conversations about what we would do, but all he wanted to do was to stay with us. We’d become family.”

While many care leavers look for their own accommodation with the help of their local authority, or perhaps return to their birth families, “that wouldn’t have been a safe option for Daniel,” Jane said.

Jane and Dave

Because of Daniel’s care needs, the local authority informed him about Shared Lives.

Shared Lives is a model of care in which an adult who needs support is matched with a pre-approved carer, becoming part of their family and community life. The scheme supports adults with a range of needs, including learning disabilities, autism, mental health needs and physical disabilities, as well as older people who may need additional support to maintain their independence.

A way to stay together

For Jane, Dave and Daniel, Shared Lives offered a way for the family to remain together.

Daniel could continue living with Jane and Dave, while they could continue to access support in caring for his needs as an adult.

Jane and Dave went through an in-depth assessment process to become Shared Lives carers, including the necessary checks and training required to support Daniel.

Their son, Kyle, who is 11 months older than Daniel, decided he would become a Shared Lives carer too.

“Kyle said he’d go through the process to become a carer in case something happened to Dave and I,” Jane said. “Daniel is his brother, Kyle said, and he’d look after him.”

Daniel and Kyle

Once they had all been approved by Shared Lives, life with Daniel continued in many ways as it had before.

“Except now, Kyle takes Daniel out on respite,” Jane said. “They do fun things that kids don’t always want to do with their families. He can go away with Kyle and be a 20-year-old lad safely.”

Supporting people in their communities

Paul Hughes, a Shared Lives Worker with Southeast Wales Shared Lives Scheme, told The Valleys Lead that “no two days are the same”, as the service is built around each individual and their goals.

A typical day might involve helping someone develop independent living skills, attending work or volunteering, going shopping, meeting friends, taking part in hobbies or community groups, exercising, or simply enjoying everyday family life.

“The aim is to support people to live as independently as possible while maintaining meaningful relationships and participating in their local community,” Hughes said.

The Southeast Wales Shared Lives Scheme operates across Caerphilly, Newport, Blaenau Gwent, Torfaen, Merthyr Tydfil, Monmouthshire and Rhondda Cynon Taf.

“Currently, approximately 520 Shared Lives arrangements are supported by around 244 approved carer households,” Hughes said. “As demand for personalised, community-based support continues to grow, the service is actively seeking new Shared Lives carers to create more opportunities for people to benefit from a family-based approach to care and support within their own communities.”

For some people, Hughes said, the scheme can also provide a “highly effective alternative to hospital admission.”

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